The short answer is: There is no right age for your daughter’s first waxing.
It’s up to the choice of parents and daughter. So, ask yourself what age your daughter is ready for this step.
Waxing has become a lot more popular over the last few years, so it’s easy for your kid to know about it.
And it is important to give your daughter a choice to make her own decision when discussing about right age for first waxing.
Why? Because while we might simply say, “No, you’re too young”, it might be completely justified from their end.
- Times have changed. Kids are exposed to beauty standards sooner than ever.
- Peer pressure is the number one factor in the decisions our kids make.
- Feeling of self. They are starting to become individuals, and we need to respect that
- ‘No’ just infuriates them. Obviously!
But this doesn’t mean that you just give the green flag from your end. Instead of saying yes or no, consider the following things.
1. Understand your daughter’s ‘why’.
You need to understand the reason behind wanting a waxing. Let’s face it – there is no other reason apart from aesthetics.
If she wants silky smooth skin because that’s what she keeps seeing among her friends and social media, explain to her how beauty standards can be toxic. If your daughter feels embarrassed about her hair growth at a young age, tell her that it’s natural and that it is common in young teens.
While it is easy for us to give them advice, remember that this can be a sensitive and emotional topic for them. So, show empathy. I would like to add, don’t argue with your daughter about it. Just explain and let her come to her conclusions.
2. Don’t pressure her into doing what you want.
You might prefer shaving over waxing or have some reservations based on prior experiences. Don’t let that shape your daughter’s experience.
One of the most important things you should keep an eye out for is not to pressure your daughter into making her first waxing experience one she doesn’t enjoy. Waxing is already a painful process; make sure she is as comfortable as she can be.
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3. Discuss the pros and cons of waxing with your daughter.
You must sit down with your daughter before she decides to get waxing done, to discuss why it might be good or bad for her. Make sure you write out the pros and cons of every method so she knows what to expect during and after waxing.
Remind your daughter about the pain factor during waxing and that it might take a few sessions before she gets used to it. Make sure you talk about the cost of hair removal, as well as how to take good care of her skin afterwards.
4. Give her a preview.
Give her the chance to experience how it will feel.
You can always give your daughter a short preview of what it’s like before she decides if she wants to go all-in or not. You can either show her yours (if you wax yourself) or let her try on an area that doesn’t really expose.
Take her to the salon with you when you are going for waxing and get the beauticians to explain things to her as well. It’s always better for the kid to hear from a third person besides us.
5. Give her a choice – not an ultimatum.
Give your daughter the chance to choose her method for hair removal. You never want her to feel like it is something she cannot control. Let her know that you will support whatever she decides. If she does not want any waxing or hair removal, at all, do not push her into it either.
Be on the same page with your waxing salon.
First and foremost, make sure you know how old your daughter has to be to get a professional waxing done. Some spas or salons require that you are 18 years or older, while others only need that you are 16 years old.
6. Consider making it a bonding activity.
If your daughter is very young, you might want to consider making it a bonding activity. There are many options for mother-daughter bonding activities that could easily include waxing. You can find nail salons or spas that offer spa days to teenagers with mothers. Waxing is a relaxing activity, so you could even add it to your spa day at home.
Watching our little daughters grow into a woman can be a little scary and intimidating. Understandably, you might want her to not worry about these things in her early years. But remember that kids grow at their own pace, and trying to control the right age for first waxing will only make it hard for the both of you.
Discuss things freely and give them the freedom to decide things like waxing on their own.
